Ra SHAWN-DA-PROFESSOR

Ra SHAWN-DA-PROFESSOR

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

A FREE-SPIRITED, TALENTED PERFORMER LETS LOOSE

Philadelphia is truly the city of brotherly love. During my many visits to the city, I've met several cool, down to earth and talented people, including Da Quan J. Motley, a talented performer and artist, who has been making an impact on the Out music scene with his talent, activism, spirit and his cooking. (The brother can throw down in the kitchen and Da-Professor is determined to taste his cuisine this year.) I first met and spoke to Da Quan after his performance at Philly Black Pride in 2012 and whenever rapper I.K.P. would hang out with us, he would always recommend that we needed to link up to talk about music and life. We finally did connect in the summer of 2013, and found out that we both loved music while I found him to be out going, down to earth, intelligent and really into the arts. I was so impressed that I knew I had to interview him for my blog which was done via email where he spoke about his career, life, the importance of artists supporting each other.




Da-Professor: This is Da-Professor interviewing singer/songwriter Da Quan Thanks for allowing me to interview you. How are things going with you?
Da Quan: Thank you for the opportunity to speak with you, things are well, staying busy, remaining focused.

Da-Professor: That's great to hear and know. Can you please let the viewers know who DaQuan is?
DaQuan: DaQuan is a performing artist , at least that's a label I'm comfortable owning. Singer, MC, songwriter, composer, actor, writer, painter, etc... would just be too long would you agree? I enjoy all mediums of art, and try to think of new ways to present them in an entertaining way .

Da-Professor: Great. So tell me how did you become interested in music?
DaQuan: I was young, 6 or so. Got involved in a inner city youth music program, that's where I received classical training in an instrument of my choice. I chose the clarinet , because of my Grandmothers love of Benny Goodman. 

Da-Professor: Which performers influenced you and what was about them that made you take notice?
DaQuan: I am deeply influenced by entertainers, I could name a list that would take up most of the interview to be honest. But people like Cab Calloway , Josephine Baker, Ella Fitzgerald, The Rat Pack,Fats Waller, Jackie Wilson, James Brown, All of The Jacksons,Patti LaBelle, Fela Kuti , Celia Cruz . . .just to get started. These are all people that captured their audience in many ways. Yes they all have made a great record... but they were even better when they performed. That "You Had To Be There" experience is priceless.

Da-Professor: Interesting choices. How long have you performing and do you remember the first time you performed live?
DaQuan: I've been performing since I was 7 , recitals, school bands, plays mostly . At 9 I had my first public speaking experience in front of 500 people or so, I remembered not being afraid, and enjoying that I was being given full attention. I guess you could say that's when I knew I wanted to perform.

Da-Professor: You're happen to be an Out performer. What inspired you to be on out performer and have you had any challenges being true to who you are?
DaQuan: I never aspired to be an "Out performer". I'm open about my sexuality, and I guess that considers  me to be "Out" of some metaphorical closet .  I chose to be involved with the "Out Music" community because I believe in building, and promoting unity in a community that I believe in. It is my way of not forgetting where I have come from.
I have had many challenges, but they never have exceeded my successes. I don't conform to trends, and that has put damper on how I am received as an artist , weather it be Out , or Mainstream. But, these things still have not made me question my personal artistic integrity.

Da-Professor: OK cool. In addition to recording and performing, you're also involved with coordinating show cases and shows for many LGBT singers and rappers to perform. What inspired you to become involved and how important is it for LGBT to have avenues, venues and opportunities to perform and display their talent?
DaQuan: I was that kid in high school that was involved in a lot of extracurricular activities. I can't help but to get involved. If I want to have a safe place where I can display my talents, then I would have to create that space. Luckily I have found many like-minded individuals on the way. It is very important for the community's morale  to have venues, and safe spaces for the  LGBTQ artist to perform , and showcase their talents.

Da-Professor: I've listen to your music and it you mixed various genres of music including Soul, Funk, Rock, Hip-Hop and Spoken word and Neo-Soul. What influenced you to mix all those genres of music together?
Da-Professor: Those would all be types of mediums that I consider myself good at . I grew up listening to all those genres. I saw Mya Angelou speak when I was young, and she was very entertaining ,she didn't just read a poem , she acted them out, sang , moved about the stage like a dancer at times. The male figures in my family would listen to a lot of The Last Poets , These  were both a major Spoken Word Influence. My mom listened to Parliament, Funkadelics, WAR, E W & Fire , Chic. . .and on and on ... these records helped shaped what I consider my sound . 

Da-Professor: I love your song  Molly Ringwald . What was the inspiration for that song?
DaQuan: Molly Ringwald was the inspiration of course , lol. I love 80's films. She was my first girl crush growing up . As a child I knew I wanted to make a song about her, so when I had the opportunity I did. It seems to be a crowd pleaser as well.

Da-Professor: You and I.K.P. teamed with Out Rap Legend Tim' M West for your latest single. How did you get together and what was it like working with those two talented artists?
DaQuan: Tim M hit me up and told me he wanted to do a track with I.K.P. and myself , called The News. I've worked with I.K.P. before, and am very familiar with Tim M West music , so I knew I was in good talented company . I was really excited to finally be able to get to work with Tim . I appreciate the work he has done, and the doors he has opened for other LGBTQ artist. 

Da-Professor: You and I.K.P. also linked up with Baron and remade your version of the Sam Cooke classic "Chain Gain"  Who came up with the idea to redo that classic, and why do you feel that song is still a classic after many decades?
DaQuan: WOW ... is the first thing I think of every time I hear or think about that record. It was such a collaborative effort . I.K.P. hit me up with the track with another concept at the time I don't remember to be honest . But months later sends me the track with him and Baron's verse on it. Baron Singing the famous line from Sam Cooke's classic "Chain Gang" and both of them delivering two very solid verses. Needless to say I was intimidated to even get on the track. But, I love Sam Cooke so much, and I couldn't think of a better way then honoring him by singing the verse from the song  with my own little twist.   

Da-Professor: Interesting interesting. If you had the opportunity to work with any performer mainstream, and LGBT, who would it be? Name as many as you like.
DaQuan: Where do I begin , I honestly want to work with anyone that would like to work with me. That's just not a safe answer either. If another artist really is receptive, and gets what I'm doing. . . then I believe we should collaborate. My dream would to do a track with Erykah Badu , I'd think that would change me forever ! I'd love to cut an ep with Bootsy Collins. I've even thought of camping on his lawn with a sign asking him to collaborate with me. I'm crazy enough to do it .Stay tuned .

Da-Professor: In addition to recording and performing do you plan on doing an modeling and acting in the near future?
DaQuan: I'm can take a good photo , but I am NO model . . lol. . . I would really be happy if I got involved in acting. I would love to do theater.


Da-Professor: You live in Philly. The city that gave birth to Philly International Records, Patti LaBelle, Eve, Boyz II Men, Joan Jett, Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jill Scott and The Roots. How does it feel to be from a city that gave birth to these legends and how do you feel that you're going to add to their musical legacy?
DaQuan: I feel like it's an artistic privilege to be apart of this city. I'd be honored to continue and reshape the legacy of the "Philadelphia Sound' , what hard working artist wouldn't want to represent for their "Hometown" .

Da-Professor: From your perspective, what is it about Philly guys that makes people wanna holla at them?
DaQuan: LOL. . .who knows, maybe be it's the beards.lol.  I think there are attractive people in every city. But , I can honestly tell you there is something different about a "Guy From Philly"  a certain Je Ne Sais Quoi .

Da-Professor: When you're not performing, writing and coordinating shows, what do you do in your spare time to relax?
DaQuan: I like to burn lavender oil, and listen to what ever music or sounds soothes me, preferably nude. That's my happy place. I also enjoy going to the movies, having drinks at my  favorite bar and and talking with my favorite bartender (Shout Outs to Philadelphia's Legendary Venture Inn). I really cherish time with my very small group of close friends. and of course . . . cooking !  


Da-Professor: I heard that you know how to throw down in the kitchen like Miss Patti lol. You must let me sample some of your cooking bro.
DaQuan: I don't want to brag. . .  but I will ! I really enjoy it. . .the best part is watching others eat so you can sample whenever you'd like .
Da-Professor: We can make it happen. For the past year many entertainers and athletes such as Frank Ocean, Jason Collins and Rayven-Symone have come out the closet. Tell me how do you feel about them deciding to live in their truth and how do you feel it's gonna help many especially Blacks cope with their sexuality.
DaQuan: Welcome to the club, we've been expecting you . . . lol... but honestly it is good when people decide not to live anyone's truth but their own. It's a good way to give other people some encouragement to come out as well. It is especially important to have good representation of people of color who make this step, we have a lot deep rooted  issues when it comes to sexual identity. 

Da-Professor: I also remember when Frank Ocean revealed his bi-sexuality, many were giving him props because of him being an R&B singer and songwriter, while many were saying it's great that he came out, but we have to also support the Out artists who's been making music and representing the community years before many knew of his existence. How important is it for the community to support their own artists?

DaQuan: Support is very important within the community. Support in general of anything worthwhile is key in general. I show my support to good music, and artist. People that have a talent, skill, and undying spirit to keep creating. I honestly don't care what there sexuality is. I just want to see art happen !

Da-Professor:True because I'm so over the kids complaining about the Prides hiring the Disco/Dance artists, yet not showing love to the openly 
Gay Lesbian Bisexual and Transgender Singers and Rappers. Many people are upset at the verdict involving the Trayvon Martin trial. How did it affect you personally and how important is it for Blacks to know that no matter where they live, how they dress and their sexual orientation that they can be the target for racial profiling?
Da-Quan: I don't even frequent the news , and I was fully informed of the Trayvon Martin case. I was affected deeply, the nation was affected deeply. We all have some things to work on when it comes to race issues in this world. This unfortunately showed us we have much more work to do . Sad. 

Da-Professor: We lost many musical legends. How did the death of Michael Jackson affected you and the world?
DaQuan: How could I even answer that without carrying on for at least an hour. MJ was special! What more can I say . His early demise only leaves a legacy that will haunt the WORLD for the rest of it's existence !

Da-Professor: Philly also lost their hometown heroes Lisa Left-Eye Lopes of TLC and Romantic Soul singer Teddy Pendergrass. How do you feel their deaths affected the music industry, and the city of Philadelphia? 
DaQuan: Any lost affects  people in many ways, a person passing always reminds me of how precious , and short life can be. I encourages me to keep working, and creating .

Da-Professor: What did you think of the TLC movie and if there was a movie to be made about Teddy Pendergrass, who would you like to play the late romantic Teddy Bear?
DaQuan: I really enjoyed the TLC movie , I think they really stuck it to Pebbles, and maybe rightfully so . But I will say they picked an amazing cast to portray the group. Speaking of good picks for a cast I couldn't even think of anyone to play Teddy P , maybe some unknown .

Da-Professor: We also lost Ivory Soul Queen Teena Marie who was and still is loved and embraced by the Black community. How did her unexpected death affected the music industry and her fans and what made her connection with the Black community tight and pure?
DaQuan: My Mother Barbara , loved, loved ,loved Teena Marie , and has a very link to her and her music. So when I heard about her passing, Portuguese Lover started to play in my head, and I immediately thought of my Momma Barb! She said she was in the car when she heard the news and had to pull the car off the side of the road and have a cry . I felt her pain. As far as her connection to the Black community let's not forget we gave her a hard time before we embraced her fully. The record label even gave her a hard time . . . but a talent such as hers overcame all that! 

Da-Professor:The Fugees sampled her classic Ooh La La La for their hit Fugeela. What do you think of the Fugees sampling her classic number one hit?
DaQuan: That's Hip Hop at it's finest. It was a great way to keep a legend alive . 

Da-Professor: Many fans were shocked at Disco Empress/Songwriter Donna Summer's death. How did her death affected her fans as well as the LGBT community and how important is it for her legacy to be honored?
DaQuan: Again another sad lost, it's important as fans to honor the legacy. To keep playing those records , sharing , and talking about their music. It's the only way to pass the "knowledge",  if you will .


Da-Professor: Both TLC and Beyonce Knowles each sampled Donna's classic debut single "Love To Love You Baby" for their hits "I'm Good At Being Bad" and "Naughty Girl" what do you think about those acts sampling her classic song for their hits?
DaQuan: Just as I feel about The Teena sample, these were both good ways to introduce an entire generation to the classics. I'm sure both of those artist were fans of Donna's classic.

Da-Professor: How do you feel you're making an impact on the music industry and in the LGBT Community?
DaQuan: I still have more work to do , but I believe I will make an impact by being an "original" . I respect, and appreciate my craft. My hopes is that others recognize that as well. 

Da-Professor: Where do you see yourself in the next 5-10 years?
DaQuan: Still creating, doing more extensive forms of performance art outside of music. And,  I hope married, and working on a beautiful family. 

Da-Professor: What type of guys do you like and what do they have to bring to the table besides their looks and body?
DaQuan: I am attracted to a good spirit , male, female, whatever they may identify as. What keeps me is their ability of making me feel safe, appreciated, and how well they reflect the love I give. 

Da-Professor: What advice would you give to a LGBT person who wants to pursue a career as an Out performer?
DaQuan: Quitting is for the dead. . .  so don't give up on your passion !

Da-Professor: Ok Thanks for allowing me to interviewing you bro. Looking forward to seeing great things from you and looking forward to tasting your cooking. Shall I bring some Tupperware? Lol.
DaQuan: Thanks for the opportunity , and no Tupperware needed . . .  I have plenty I will send you home with , just bring your appetite !


On Fri, Nov 15, 2013 at 3:00 PM, Ra SHAWN CHISOLM <bksgldevo@hotmail.com> wrote:
This is Da-Professor interviewing singer/songwriter Da Quan Thanks for allowing me to interview you. How are things going with you?




That's great to hear and know. Can you please let the viewers know who Da Quan is?






Great. So tell me how did you become interested in music?





Which performers influenced you and what was about them that made you take notice?






Interesting choices. How long have you performing and do you remember the first time you performed live?





You're happen to be an Out performer. What inspired you to be on out performer and have you had any challenges being true to who you are?





OK cool. In addition to recording and performing, you're also involved with coordinating show cases and shows for many GLBT singers and rappers to perform. What inspired you to become involved and how important is it for GLBT to have avenues, venues and opportunities to perform and display their talent?






I've listen to your music and it you mixed various genres of music including Soul, Funk, Rock, Hip-Hop and Spoken word and Neo-Soul. What influenced you to mix all those genres of music together?





I love your song Miss Molly. What was the inspiration for that song?





You and I.K.P. teamed with Out Rap Legend Tim' M West for your latest single. How did you get together and what was it like working with those two talented artists?





You and I.K.P. also linked up with Baron and remade your version of the Sam Cooke classic "Chain Gain"  Who came up with the idea to redo that classic, and why do you feel that song is still a classic after many decades?







Interesting interesting. If you had the opportunity to work with any performer mainstream, and GLBT, who would it be? Name as many as you like.







In addition to recording and performing do you plan on doing an modeling and acting in the near future?






You live in Philly. The city that gave birth to Philly International Records, Patti LaBelle, Eve, Boyz II Men, Joan Jett, Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jill Scott and The Roots. How does it feel to be from a city that gave birth to these legends and how do you feel that you're going to add to their musical legacy?





From your prespective, what is it about Philly guys that makes people wanna holla at them?






When you're not performing, writing and coordinating shows, what do you do in your spare time to relax?





I heard that you know how to throw down in the kitchen like Miss Patti lol. You must let me sample some of your cooking bro.





We can make it happen.




For the past year many entertainers and athletes such as Frank Ocean, Jason Collins and Rayven-Symone have come out the closet. Tell me how do you feel about them deciding to live in their truth and how do you feel it's gonna help many especially Blacks cope with their sexuality.




I also remember when Frank Ocean revealed his bi-sexuality, many were giving him props because of him being an R&B singer and songwriter, while many were saying it's great that he came out, but we have to also support the Out artists who's been making music and representing the community years before many knew of his existance. How important is it for the community to support their own artists?








True because I'm so over the kids complaining about the Prides hiring the Disco/Dance artists, yet not showing love to the openly 
Gay Lesbian Bisexual and Transgender Singers and Rappers.






Many people are upset at the verdict involving the Trayvon Martin trial. How did it affect you personally and how important is it for Blacks to know that no matter where they live, how they dress and their sexual orientation that they can be the target for racial profiling?





We lost many musical legends. How did the death of Michael Jackson affected you and the world?




Philly also lost their hometown heroes Lisa Left-Eye Lopes of TLC and Romantic Soul singer Teddy Pendergrass. How do you feel their deaths affected the music industry, and the city of Philadelphia? What did you think of the TLC movie and if there was a movie to be made about Teddy Pendergrass, who would you like to play the late romantic Teddy Bear?




We also lost Ivory Soul Queen Teena Marie who was and still is loved and embraced by the Black community. How did her unexpected death affected the music industry and her fans and what made her connection with the Black community tight and pure?




The Fugees sampled her classic Ooh La La La for their hit Fugeela. What do you think of the Fugees sampling her classic number one hit?





Many fans were shocked at Disco Emperess/Songwriter Donna Summer's death. How did her death affected her fans as well as the GLBT community and how important is it for her legacy to be honored?





Both TLC and Beyonce Knowles each sampled Donna's classic debut single "Love To Love You Baby" for their hits "I'm Good At Being Bad" and "Naughty Girl" what do you think about those acts sampling her classic song for their hits?







How do you feel you're making an impact on the music industry and in the GLBT Community?







Where do you see yourself in the next 5-10 years?






What type of guys do you like and what do they have to bring to the table besides their looks and body?





What advice would you give to a GLBT person who wants to pursue a career as an Out performer?





Ok Thanks for allowing me to interviewing you bro. Looking forward to seeing great things from you and looking forward to tasting your cooking. Shall I bring some tupperware? Lol.












Friday, February 14, 2014

DA-PROFESSOR'S FAVORITE BLACK COUPLES

For decades, many publications have photographed and done features on many famous Black Couples who are in the public eye. Actors, Singers, Rappers, Politicians, First Ladies, Athletes, Activists, Authors, Socialites, Kappas. Many viewers and couples aspire to be like them and even dress like them for Halloween and costume parties to show their appreciation of the love they have for each other. Here is Da-Professor's favorite couples.




1. Joseph & Katherine Jackson-When the former Katherine Scruse was a child, she dreamed of being a Country Singer, traveling the world and marrying a musician. In her memoirs My Family-The Jacksons she wrote' "I thought musicians were very sexy." She didn't become the first Black female Country singer, but she did fulfill her other two dreams of traveling the world and marrying a musician. When she first laid eyes on Joesph Walter Jackson, she found him attracted, but had no idea he sung and played guitar until after they gotten married. Joseph or Joe as he called had briefly lived in California after his parents divorced and remarried. Joe loved the West Coast so much that he decided that he was going to return and live them on a permanent basis. When he return to Indiana, he would tell the other kids that he lived in California which gave him respect and street credit, but it was his shyness, strength and boldness that made Katherine fall in love with him as well as Joe overlooking her limp that she got due to her surviving polio. After months of dating, Joe had his mother Crystal bake her a cake, where he put an engagement ring and they went to the justice of peace, got married and got a house on 2300 Jackson Street (go figure), where they gave birth to nine children, who not only became famous singers, actresses and humanitarians, they also helped Joe and Katherine pursue their dream of moving from Gary which had many gangs, to California where they continue to raise their children to be polite and respectful human beings. Joe would always tell Katherine one day I'm gonna move us to California and he did. Many admire and respect the couple for raising their kids to be respectful adults and while many didn't agree with Joe's methods, many from that era praise him for raising his kids old-school. Joe also gave his kids chores while Katherine provided them with spiritual guidance and love she learned by becoming a Jehovah's witness in Gary. She continues to witness to people to this day. Their marriage has endured many challenges, the death of Katherine's sister, Joe's affair, Randy surviving a deadly car accident, Michael getting burned while filming a Pepsi commercial, and the loss of Joe's parents, their daughter in laws Delores and Enid and the death of their beloved sons Marlon's twin Brandon who died shortly after birth and their son Michael, who died a month after their 60th wedding anniversary. Their love for family has helped this couple stay strong and while they spend time living in different states (Joe lives in Las Vegas, while Katherine divides her time between California and Las Vegas) they manage to spend time together and while Joe has many projects he's working on, he and Katherine manage to spend time together where they reflect on the time they met, struggle to keep their bills paid and their son's first talent show. Joe also cooks meals and bar-b-ques as well as play pranks on Katherine to the point where she tells him "Joe you make me sick when you do that!" they still love each other and their relationship shows that with love for each other and values parents can raise their kids to be respectful while making time for themselves.

2. President Barack & Michelle Obama-When Barack Obama first laid eyes on Michelle Robinson, he was captivated by her beauty, strength and outgoing personality. So much that he asked her out on several dates, which she declined due to her being his boss at the law firm they worked at, and for his young age. That didn't stop the future first Black President for pursing the future first Black First Lady. Instead of asking her out on a date, he told her that he would like to take her out for ice cream. Michelle removed her chip and went out for her dessert, which led to more dates, marriage, 2 kids and making history by becoming the first Black couple to become The President and First Lady of the United States. What makes this couple love is their outgoing personalities, they public displays of affection which consists of hugs, kisses, daps and Barack rubbing Michelle's ass from time to time. (When he was elected for a 2nd tern, many fans and supporters noticed their glow and even commented how he was going to tear her ass up that night. Many fans and supporters still talk about how they please each other in the bedroom). Their commitments to their daughters also makes them loved and adored as well as them being hip to popular culture and not allowing their professional titles to prevent them from being down to earth to their guests. Their showing people that being royal doesn't mean you have to be stiff sticks in the mud.

 
3. Marlon & Carol Jackson. When The Jackson 5ive burst onto the scene in 1969, many males wanted to be like them, while many females wanted to get with them and become a wife of one of the Jackson brothers. Some fans went as far as to discuss their dream weddings, which was something that the executives of their first record label loved, which is why they were strongly against any of the brothers having girlfriends. They were constantly told that your biggest fan base are females, and that girlfriends can hurt record sales and break up groups. The brothers would roll their eyes and secretly take a whatever attitude. Well the girl who captured Marlon Jackson's heart was Carol Ann Parker, who Michael introduced his older brother to and the two hit it off, and began a friendship which later blossomed into a romance that has lasted for 37 years. When their relationship got serious, Motown executives would the couple not to hold hands around fans and not make it obvious. In a documentary on The Jackson family, Marlon revealed that while he did understand the importance of record sales, he also revealed that there was other things to life besides record sales and fans, and in 1975, Marlon and Carol eloped, and kept their marriage a secret for 5 months until his mother's instincts forced her to ask him did he marry Carol. When he told her yes, she told him that she knew. 37 years, 3 kids and 4 grandchildren later, Marlon and Carol are still happily married. Marlon and his sister Rebbie are the only members of The Jackson siblings to not divorce. What makes their love strong? In Katherine's memoirs My Family, Marlon told his mother that he and Carol are friends first. They also are very family orienated-they spend time together as a family by traveling and having family time. When The Jacksons were on tour and had days off, Marlon would fly to California to spend time with Carol, while she would come on the road from time to time. They also co-wrote songs for Barry White and Betty Wright as well as posed for many magazine publications together, while Marlon supported Carol's decision to model while she supported him when he decided to pursue a solo career as well as his decision to work in real estate. They also have a strong spiritual foundation. While Marlon was raised as a Jehovah's witness, he and Carol decided to attend a Catholic church, which later led Marlon to be the President of a Cable company which aired shows with family values. Fans love them for sticking together through thick and thin and for having their own lives away from the spotlight.

4. Gabrielle Union and Dwayne Wade. She's one of television's and silver screen's hottest actress, while he is one of the NBA's hottest and skilled players who had helped the Miami Heat win the 2013 championship. Their relationship still has many of their fans talking and eager to see photos of them together. NBA player Dwayne Wade had met actress Gabrielle Union in 2009 and they began an unexpected friendship which later turned into a romance, which gained them many followers and supporters as well as haters who called the star of "Being Mary Jane" a home wrecker, blaming her for breaking up D-Wade's marriage to his childhood sweetheart. D-Wade had filed for divorce in 2007 years before he even met Gabrielle. Many have hated on him for not following the tradition of dating a light-skinned, bi-racial or White female. What makes them love? The affection they have between each other in front of the camera and how Gabrielle has a great relationship with his kids, who he got custody of and his nephew that he's raising. Dwayne, a published author also shows Gabrielle support and makes sure she is loved and catered to. Their relationship also endured pain-Dwayne's ex-wife suing Gabrielle accusing her of mental stress (the suit was dropped) and Dwayne fathering a son with his longtime friend while he and Gabrielle had took a break from their relationship due to their busy careers, but the couple reunited and shortly before Christmas, Dwayne proposed to her. Looks like they're going to be together for a long time and these obstacles proves that love can conquer all with love and basketball.

5.David & Tre'Darius Anderson. With many cities and states legalizing Same sex marriage, many LGBT and SGL couples didn't waste anytime jumping the broom, including David and Tre'Darius Anderson, who made history by becoming the youngest African-American Gay/SGL couple to tie the knot, giving hope to many young, and old to find their soul-mates and tie the knot as well. The couple who were born and raised in Memphis Tennessee had met in 2010 and became friends before becoming lovers. They love for so strong that they decided to get married, but due to their state not legalizing same sex marriage, the couple flew to Washington DC for an official marriage and later returned to their home-state for a state wedding and reception that was aired on the television show My Teenage Wedding. What makes this couple loved is their love for each other as well as their activism for the LGBT rights and equality. Both of them run their website Guys with pride. The couple have endured many haters including homophobic morons as well as shady hating gays who feel that they're too young to be married. They also gained many supporters who applaud them for getting married and showing people that if they have faith in God and love their partner they can jump the broom. They're historic union is special because many who came before them wasn't able to get married and had to move out of the south to avoid homophobic attacks. Congratulations to you two.

6. Robert Brown & Nathaniel Gay. When students to to college, they join many students groups including fraternities with hopes of joining them for many fringe benefits. Well Robert Brown wound up getting hitched to Kappa Nathaniel Gay in Kentucky last September. When footage and photos of their wedding surfaced, many believed that it was a fraternity themed wedding due to the colors that the grooms wore at their wedding. Gay denied that his and Brown's wedding was fraternity theme in an interview with Tom Joyner and that the only thing that represented his fraternity was his frat brothers who were in attendance to show the couple support. The two met in their hometown of Kentucky where they both worked at the local Walmart and that's where Robert laid eyes on Nathaniel who was working in the Mc Donalds. A few years later he had his female friend tell him he thought he was cute, but he never knew if his friend gave him the news. A few years later they connected through a mutual friend, and they became friends until Robert took a job in New York and left heartbroken wondering if he would ever see his friend again. A few months later, Nathaniel came to the big apple for a visit and hasn't left. In fact their friendship grew into a friendship and in 2012 they decided to tie the knot so they flew back to their hometown for the ceremony which was featured in Ebony Magazine which made them the first African American Gay/SGL couple to be featured in the legendary magazine. Many Black/SGL couples, especially college students were happy to see a member of a fraternity get married with his frat brothers in attendance along with both members of their families.



7. Doug & Greg Cooper-Spencer. What's Age Got To Do With It is how many describe the relationship between Doug & Greg Cooper-Spencer. The talented author had met the talented photographer and barber in their hometown of Ohio where Doug who had gotten out of a relationship was hanging in the park, when Greg had approached him. Doug had noticed that he was looking for a mentor, but Greg who had an old soul was looking for mentor and a boyfriend and knew that Doug was the one. But there was a obstacle-Greg was 2 months shy of being 18 and Doug was adamant that he be a mentor and big brother until he turned 18 and once Greg's birthday came they began to build a relationship but Doug urged Greg to date other people before making his final decision. A few years later they became a couple and brought a house together and been together for close to 18 years. What makes their relationship special is the love they have for each other. When I was introduced to them by author Donald Peebles, I noticed how Greg made sure that things went smooth for Doug by making sure he posed for photos with his fans and made sure the photographs came out great. Both have individual careers, but they make sure they spend time together.



8. Mariah Carey & Nick Cannon. When word got out that R&B/Hip-Hop Singer/Songwriter/Producer Mariah Carey had married Comedian/Actor/Producer/Rapper/Director Nick Cannon, many were shocked to learn that they were dating but they were just as shocked when they learned that they married after dating for over 6 weeks. Of course many were thinking and betting that their marriage wouldn't last. Well 5 years and two kids later they're having the last laugh. When Mariah was interviewed in HX magazine, she told the reporter that she was tramutized by her marriage to Tommy Mottola the former CEO of her former record label which Mimi revealed was good at first but later was the victim of his controlling ways as well as his verbal and emotional abuse. After divorcing him she began to take control of her career by adding Hip-Hop and R&B to her pop flavored songs which showed her growth as a performer and gained her more record sales. Nick Cannon had dated many famous singers including Christina Milan, who he proposed to. They're relationship ended. When it came time for Mariah to film a video for her single "Bye Bye" she recruited Nick to film to direct the video, and they became fast friends and realized that they had many things in common including spirituality, values, views about life, liking to have fun and knowing that there's a time and place for everything. 6 weeks later they got married in the Caribbean and they've been together ever since. What makes their relationship special is their love for each other. They always make time for each other despite living life as a bi-costal couple-Nick hosts a television show in California 3 times a week, while Mariah stays in New York recording in her pent house recording studio. Every year on their anniversary they renew their vows, and they celebrate each other birthdays with themes. They did endure many challenges. Mimi suffered a miscarriage and fell while pregnant with the couple's twins during a performance and while on a Christmas vacation, Nick was diagnosed with kidney failure and lupus nephritis. Despite those obstacles the couple are still happily married and still act like newly weds by sending loving and playful text messages to each other and have hot and passionate love and sex in their penthouse and on their private jet.



9. Mary J. Blige & Kendu Isaacs. When Mary J. Blige released her single "Be Happy" 19 years ago, it became a hit with many of her fans who were looking for happiness in their personal lives. Mary was also looking to be happy as well. Despite having hit records and making money and winning awards, The Queen of Hip-Hop Soul was battling depression, drug addiction and was in a physical abusive relationship with former label-mate K-CI Hailey of Jodeci who Mary recorded a duet with on her debut album. Mary held her own and fought back. After ending the relationship, she also began to take control of her career and continue to score many more hit albums and singles and was reported to have dated Singer/Songwriter Case and rapper Nas, but she also began to battle alcoholism to ease her pain. Enter songwriter/producer Kendu Isaac who she began to date, and who was serious that she quit drinking. Mary didn't take him seriously, until he told her that if she came home drunk one more time he would end their relationship for good. Sensing he was serious, she came straight home after a performance and began a process of healing and seeing that  she had a good man in her corner who cared about her as a person and not a famous singer. Their relationship grew and Mary began to love him, his kids and herself and shortly before Christmas 2003, the couple married in a private ceremony in their New Jersey home surrounded by family and the couple recently celebrated their 10th year anniversary.


10. DJ Baker & Eric J. Parker. Dubbed as the Black Gay Power couple by many in the LGBT/SGL community, DJ Baker and Eric J. Parker has been going strong as a couple for the past 5 years. The online podcast host/actor and the famous Socialite continues to strive to make their relationship work. After meeting at a show that DJ was co-hosting at the time, the two exchanged numbers and began to talk and got to know each other, but things began to get hot when the socialite was a guest on his famous award winning show and on Valentines Day 2008 they became a couple and made their announcement in a crazy way-they were caught making out in the VIP section at Alibis. What makes their relationship work is their open line of communication, playfulness, spending quality time together and having hot and passionate sex. DJ the self-proclaim famous top has always talked about how they love to please each other on his show, while 
Eric jokes about who really runs the relationships in and out the bedroom. They've had many obstacles but they continue to love each other and DJ is looking forward to buying Eric a ring. 

11. Carmelo & Lalah Vazqez-Anthony. Hip-Hop DJ/Producer is responsible for producing many hit records as well as discovering rapper Fabulous. He's also responsible for introducing his mutual friends DJ/Video Host/Actress Lalah Vazquez to NBA star Carmello Anthony at a party and it was that introduction that made them the industry's hottest and famous couples. After their introduction, Mello was getting started with is career and was busy partying and running the streets, while Lalah stood by him and allowed him to have his fun knowing that he had potential to grow as a person and that he was going to return to her. Mello despite running the streets with his boys still kept in touch with her and after realizing that she was the one decided to have a Jermaine Jackson moment by getting serious with Lalah and in 2004 he proposed to her, making their families and friends happy and eager for them to walk down the aisle. The couple decided to not to rush into marriage due to their busy careers and wanting to take the step when they believed the time was right for the two of them despite becoming parents of a son in 2007. In 2010 the couple finally tied the knot in New York City which was captured on Lalah's VH-1's hit show Lalah's Full Court Wedding and Lalah's Full Court Life. The couple became more popular when Mello signed to play with the New York Knicks making everybody in New York very happy including both of their fans. What makes their relationship work is spending quality time with each other by having date nights as well as time with their son. Another thing that keeps them happy the couple surprising each other and Mello's desire to stay home and smoke cigars which still has Lalah shocked. In an recent interview with Ebony Magazine, she revealed that he has a soul of a 65 year old and is into wine and art and don't be asking what party is popping. The couple also revealed how Lalah loves to keep their sex life active by not having planned and scheduled sex sessions.


12. Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance. Award winning actors Angela Bassett and Courtney B Vance have known each other for many years starting back to when they both were beginning their professional careers in the theater and on silver screen. Many years later they resumed their friendship which blossomed into a loving relationship making them on of Hollywood's most famous, loved, admired and respected couples. What makes their relationship special is their spiritual foundation, love for each other and their ability and willingness to maintain private lives away from the media (both are naturally private individuals). The couple co-authored a best selling book about relationships and are the parents of a set of twins born via a surrogate. The couple is dedicated to maintaining their careers and a happy marriage.